When a mother's love is colored by feminism or (how not to love your child)
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I have found during my 40+ years the feminist culture/religion has not served women well at all. I have never "cashed" in on my gender for a job or for that matter anything. I have used my intelligence to forward myself in life and I could not have imagined a more satisfying life because of all the hard work.
The pleasure of motherhood did indeed complete me...feminists will of course hate that statement...it stopped the world from being about me and opened it up to fears, tears, joy and sleepless nights :-) I read the story of Alice Walkers daughter and felt saddness for the loss of a mother who SHOULD have loved her daughter more than herself...these femi-nazi's have put the "victimhood" in women for almost 4 decades now and in the process have removed the very thing that separates us from men...femininity...there is nothing shameful in being a woman but the feminist's would have us believe we must be a "man" to make it in the world...this woman, wife and mother disagrees....and it appears Alice Walkers daughter Rebecca Walker does as well.
"You see, my mum taught me that children enslave women. I grew up believing that children are millstones around your neck, and the idea that motherhood can make you blissfully happy is a complete fairytale."
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1021293/Alice-Walker-feminist-...
I read the article. I will definitely read the book.
I wonder what Oprah and Whoopie would say? Would they be proud of sista Alice?
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Just a typical, small town, white girl...
From one of your big fans!
Unfair. Unbalanced. Unmedicated. -- IMAO
Alice Walker is sick. As I read it, I started wondering whether this was a conservative parody or some exaggerated caricature of the worst possible mother, but then I realized Rebecca was serious.
Her mom is sick.
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Small is beautiful.
Wow...Wow...WOW!!! My jaw dropped after the second paragraph and I read every word! Even reread some paragraphs!!
That column has so many nuggets of wisdom it's almost crimininal to just chose one or two. There is one that stood out for me:
"A good mother is attentive, sets boundaries and makes the world safe for her child."
I can only say that those requirements apply to fathers too!
I know in my life that was true and I thank God for both of my truly loving parents. I will never be able to thank them for their sacrifices for both me and my brother.
Will definitely have to get the book! Too bad we can't get this on Oprah's Book Club! ;>)
I'm adding the interview to my "remarkable women" file.
"Even if you think our presidential choices this election year are between disgust and disaster, anyone who has ever been through a real disaster can tell you that this difference is not small. It is big enough to go vote on election day." - Thomas Sowell
in "The Manchurian Candidate." Just saying.
The points here are all well-taken...but I always find it distasteful when the children of famous people try to make hay by embarrassing their parents. It seems a long way away from "Honor they father and mother" to me.
"No compromise with the main purpose, no peace till victory, no pact with unrepentant wrong." - Winston Churchill
On the one hand, I agreed with the points Rebecca Walker was making in the article, but on the other hand, I had a sort of uncomfortable feeling like this was something I shouldn't be reading. Her mother doubtless deserves a public shaming, in one sense, but that's not really the point.
My first child was born when I was 1 month from being 20. I remember clearly thinking I wish I was 20 -- 19 seemed so young. However, I knew instinctively that my 'job', my mandate, responsbility in life from then on was to nurture and care for my baby. We never considered for one moment that we would 'end the pregnancy' - - it was a horror to think of such things back then, not even considered.
I lived through the 60's viewing feminism as exciting and intellectual; reading "The Feminine Mystique" and subscribing to Ms Magazine as soon as it hit the market. It began to dawn on me that these so-called feminists were destructive to women, not helpful. The propaganda from them became offensive to my sensibilities as a Mother and wife.
The true feminists did not view the world as the activist feminists did in the 60s and now. Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton were not out to destroy the family, but to make it better for all members, including the Mother. They abhored the thought of abortion and believed that raising children was the most important thing a woman could do.
Today I marvel at the very different attitudes of young women and their responsibilities as Mothers. The 'me first' approach to life goes against everything my Mother taught me as a young girl - - that when you bring babies into this world it is your obligation, duty, and joy to be their advocate and to protect them from harm as they grow up in this world.
I think we can thank the so-called feminists of today for that and from my perspective, the world is a poorer place for it.
M Penny