Different Kind of Diary. No Flames. -- UPDATE
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Update [2005-6-21 8:1:18 by Thomas]: Hat tip to user polyphemus, who reminded me of something I meant to do days ago. The family has set up a PayPaul Link here.
Just this once, I'm laying off the flames for a good cause. Read, and if possible, contribute. These things can be done in huge chunks, but it really does work in smaller bites, too.
Dear Friends:
Last week, you received an email about Susan Torres and her unborn baby, who are both fighting for their lives. This week, we are asking for your tax-deductible donations to assist in this cause. Can you donate the cost of one day of care or commit to raising that amount from your family and friends?
That's our goal, to raise money for the unreimbursed cost of all 56 planned days of Susan's care-and if possible, for the care of the baby after that.
If you can make a donation of $1,500-the amount per day of care not covered by the family's insurance-we can reach that goal. But any amount is incredibly helpful and gratefully appreciated.
To make a tax-deductible donation to the Susan M. Torres Fund, send a check to:
The Susan M. Torres Fund
P.O. Box 34105
Washington, D.C. 20043-0105Friends of the Torres family have established the Susan M. Torres Fund to help defray the enormous medical bills that this family faces. Though the family has some limited medical insurance coverage, unreimbursed costs are expected to run in excess of $1,500 per day for Susan alone-not to mention care for the baby, God willing, after July 11.
Susan M. (Rollin) Torres
May 12, 2002If you're receiving this email for the first time, here's the story. On May 6, Susan Torres-a 26-year-old vaccine researcher at NIH; mother of a two-year-old son, Peter; graduate of the University of Dallas; and parishioner at St. Rita's Catholic Church in Alexandria-collapsed of a brain hemorrhage. She was rushed to the Virginia Hospital Center in Arlington, where she has been diagnosed with stage four melanoma and is brain dead with no hope of recovery.
Right now, doctors are fighting to keep her alive through artificial respiration and other means until at least July 11 (the feast of St. Benedict), to give her 18-week-old baby a fighting chance at life.
Your prayers are helping: Last Friday, an ultrasound confirmed that the baby remains healthy, and Susan's situation has stabilized as she continues to regulate her own blood pressure and heart rate.
Contributions to the Susan M. Torres Fund are tax-deductible and the Torres and Rollin families are extraordinarily grateful to the group Faith and Action, which has generously agreed to administer the fund under its benevolence account. Faith and Action is a not-for-profit religious/charitable corporation determined to be tax exempt under IRS code section 501(c)3.
We hope that you will be able to make a donation to help this family. Any amount is appreciated. But mostly, we hope that you will continue to pray
for Susan, Jason, Peter, and Baby Torres, that God brings forth the best possible outcome to this terrible tragedy.Justin Torres
If you have kids, you understand that this is one of the Top Ten Nightmares out there. If you can give, please do.
And not just because you aren't flaming. Thanks for posting this.
Thomas,
You are right, this is a parent's top nightmare. My husband knows (as does my living will) that the only way I would want life support would be if I were pregnant.
I hope her family is there all the time, talking about good things, and getting that baby used to their voices, and happy noise in general.
We'll give money today.
The letter has a date in it of May 12, 2002. Is that a mistake?
Here's what he has to say:
A Mother's Last Act Of Love To Save Her Unborn Child
There's a truism in conservative politics that abortion is everything. Clinton's impeachment was a proxy fight over abortion (the feminists were trying to save the bacon of the most reliably pro-abortion administration in history, thus demonstrating that they cared more for the ghastly procedure than the oppressed sisterhood). Certainly, the fight over the "nuclear option" was all about abortion and the Supreme Court.
Even some members of the left have begun to question the Democratic party's rigid adherence to the turgid politics of Roe v. Wade, and the way that adherence has distorted Democratic positions on everything from schools to labor to international aid. (For an example, see Benjamin Wittes's penetrating "Letting go of Roe," in the February 2005 Atlantic Monthly.)
An evil like abortion, though, is apt to distort more than simply our politics. My family has been given a tragic lesson in this truth recently.
As some readers may know, on May 6, my sister-in-law Susan Torres - 26 years old, a mother of a 2-year-old boy, and 17 weeks pregnant - suffered a stroke brought on by undiagnosed melanoma. At this time, she lies brain dead in a Northern Virginia hospital, with no hope of ever recovering, her breathing sustained by machine.
In this midst of this tragedy and the grief that lingers like a context, like a fog, over every conversation and meal and moment in the hospital, we have hope. Doctors believe that they may be able to save this baby, keeping Susan alive long enough to deliver the child prematurely. It is no more than a fighting chance, far less than a certainty, that the baby will live. But we have hope. Keeping this baby alive is Susan's last act of love, one that has been tremendously moving to watch even as it makes you question everything you thought you knew about the fundamental justice of the world.
But this is where abortion, and the utilitarian mindset that it engenders concerning the sanctity of human life, steals its way into this tragedy. I think of it as "the moment," the little whisper of hesitation, shared not just by the doctors but even by my family. It's the moment in which you think, is this right? Are we doing the right thing? Wouldn't it just be better to let go, start over, find closure?
Once the soothing clichés start, it is difficult to make them stop. You have to force yourself to remember: this is a child's life. And children are always a good thing, devoutly to be wished for and fiercely to be fought for.
For my family, the moment was no more than a hiccup. Still, it is clear that for some of the doctors involved in this case, the decisions my brother and Susan's parents have made are foolish. That is the effect of abortion: that it has in various, subtle ways sapped the intrinsic human impulse to fight for the good of children.
I don't wish to be too harsh, and I certainly do not wish to suggest that these doctors - many of whom have taken enormous and personal interest in Susan's case - are in any way agents of the culture of death. These doctors are trained to assess chances and deploy resources where they are most effective. I respect that. We are here to fight; it's their job to tell us the truth and give us their realistic assessment. And many of them are fighting alongside us, to my immense gratitude.
But I wonder. Fifty years ago, medicine could not have done what we are trying to do. But I suspect that if it could have been done, no one then would have hesitated. The answer would have been, Of course, we must try to save the child, because saving children is what medicine is meant to do.
Thirty years after Roe, we have not yet fully come to understand all the ways that abortion has distorted our culture, coarsened it, made it less loving and less noble. The moment of hesitation I describe is the culture of death whispering insinuations at us. It is important that we continue to shout truth from the rooftops to drown out its voice.
Justin Torres is a research fellow at the Hoover Institution at Stanford University and research director of the Thomas B. Fordham Foundation.
I'm a friend of the Torres family, and just wanted to let you know that a PayPal account has been established. It can be accessed at www.susantorresfund.org
The site is brand new and still in development, so we haven't gotten a lot of content up yet, but I think the PayPal account is functioning. If not, check back in a day or so.
Thanks for the interest and the kind words.
Wow! Two chilling thoughts for me-
"That is the effect of abortion: that it has in various, subtle ways sapped the intrinsic human impulse to fight for the good of children."
"Thirty years after Roe, we have not yet fully come to understand all the ways that abortion has distorted our culture, coarsened it, made it less loving and less noble. The moment of hesitation I describe is the culture of death whispering insinuations at us. It is important that we continue to shout truth from the rooftops to drown out its voice."
I must say, I don't know that I've ever looked at the issue of abortion in quite this way. I've always been more focused on mother/child rights/choice.
As much as I hate to admit it, Justin is spot on.
That this is a legitimate cause, am I the only one who is extremely wary of these sorts of things? I guess it's due to the tip jars at local gas stations with pictures of sickly people that I've dumped cash in for so long, that turned out to be scams that have made me a cynic, and that's not a good thing. I've pretty much gotten into the "Unless you know 'em, stay out of it" mindset lately, and again, that's not a good thing. Unfortunately, I don't know if I can change that.
-bro
But when it makes the Washington Post -- here -- I give it more credence.

Is there perchance a paypal fund set up for this already?